So you think you want to leave your marriage.

Now what?

This post is written with the assumption that you are not experiencing domestic violence or in an abusive relationship. If you are, please contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.

“How do I know if I need to go? Where do I start? What did you do?” These questions pop up in my DMs and emails often, and I can feel the tug through the screen.

“Please, just help me make this choice and tell me I’m not lighting everything on fire for nothing,” is usually the vibe I’m picking up. Probably because that was exactly my headspace when I was at the, “Ummm…shit… should I leave??” point.