I love your writing! This is so accurate because as women, we all have a list, some more, some less but it goes on, never ending for all of us. Thank you for capturing so much of what all of us feel with your words.
I think every woman can relate to this on some level. I don't think I would have even had the strength at 24 to yell at the nurse on the phone (who I was actually more angry at than the doctor, reading the story, don't know what that says about me) so just know that you dealt with it absolutely in the best way you were able to and that's really admirable.
My body responded deeply to your words. My inner 24 year old is rage- screaming at that doctor. I am so sorry for what happened. You deserved so much better from a person who literally took an oath to do no harm. I have a similar experience (and experiences plural). It’s never okay.
Jill, I am so, so sorry. I am holding so much space and love for you in your healing journey. And I hope you know, or can accept at some point, that the onus in this situation was not and will never be on you. It's on this horrible fuckwad and the complicit actors enabling his behavior.
I want to vomit reading this. How fucking dare he, them, all of them. But especially the doctor. Disgusting. Also? I’m sorry. And you are too right about the list. Ugh.
The list is endless. I am so sorry for what you endured, Jill, and fiercely admire how you stood up for yourself and, thus, so many others. My doctor story is about a male GP who wanted to give me a pelvic exam. I was 16 and there for an asthma inhaler. I explained I had already gone to the local clinic for that (for my secret birth control pills). He insisted, I resisted, reminding him where on my body my lungs were located. There was no nurse in the room. No pelvic exam was done. Talking to a friend the other day, we went over how it's always a woman who speaks out -- be it for ourselves or for others. We're the ones who will get in the middle of two dudes about to go to blows. Men just stand there. That's when someone has the nerve to say, "Not all men," I'll ask them to remember a time when they did nothing as a buddy said something offensive, as they watched a woman get harassed. It's none of my business, either, when I see that. Yet, I'll be the one to say knock it off (or something harsher). And I'm not the only one. It's always women. Thank you, Jill. xo
I love your writing! This is so accurate because as women, we all have a list, some more, some less but it goes on, never ending for all of us. Thank you for capturing so much of what all of us feel with your words.
I think every woman can relate to this on some level. I don't think I would have even had the strength at 24 to yell at the nurse on the phone (who I was actually more angry at than the doctor, reading the story, don't know what that says about me) so just know that you dealt with it absolutely in the best way you were able to and that's really admirable.
My body responded deeply to your words. My inner 24 year old is rage- screaming at that doctor. I am so sorry for what happened. You deserved so much better from a person who literally took an oath to do no harm. I have a similar experience (and experiences plural). It’s never okay.
Jill, I am so, so sorry. I am holding so much space and love for you in your healing journey. And I hope you know, or can accept at some point, that the onus in this situation was not and will never be on you. It's on this horrible fuckwad and the complicit actors enabling his behavior.
Thank you so much, friend. I could use the reminder. xoxo
I want to vomit reading this. How fucking dare he, them, all of them. But especially the doctor. Disgusting. Also? I’m sorry. And you are too right about the list. Ugh.
Thank you, Stacy. Disgusting is a great word for all of them.
I’m so sorry for what you’ve endured. None of that should have happened. You’re so brave for sharing.
The list is endless. I am so sorry for what you endured, Jill, and fiercely admire how you stood up for yourself and, thus, so many others. My doctor story is about a male GP who wanted to give me a pelvic exam. I was 16 and there for an asthma inhaler. I explained I had already gone to the local clinic for that (for my secret birth control pills). He insisted, I resisted, reminding him where on my body my lungs were located. There was no nurse in the room. No pelvic exam was done. Talking to a friend the other day, we went over how it's always a woman who speaks out -- be it for ourselves or for others. We're the ones who will get in the middle of two dudes about to go to blows. Men just stand there. That's when someone has the nerve to say, "Not all men," I'll ask them to remember a time when they did nothing as a buddy said something offensive, as they watched a woman get harassed. It's none of my business, either, when I see that. Yet, I'll be the one to say knock it off (or something harsher). And I'm not the only one. It's always women. Thank you, Jill. xo
This resonates with me so deeply. So many similar experiences. Love you more than you know, dear friend.
Love you, too. And I hate that you get it.