I’m really thankful for the rawness of your writing style. I look forward to every knew chapter.
I agree sometimes a loss like this does have to be grieved like a death. One of the worst experiences I’ve ever had with grief was when a 22 year old friendship just suddenly ended. It was SO hard to get through that incredibly painful grief.
Whew! That's quite the story! What I love is that you spoke your truth. I too have held back with my words because, why? They don't care anyway. Right? But you deserve to be heard. And so do I. I truly do hope he's happy with whomever he's with now. But I also hope he's learned to not be so careless with someones heart, ever again.
There definitely came a point where I was like, ok, you said what you needed to say already- many late nights I deleted texts I wanted to send in the coming months. I'm glad I said what I said, but then let that give me the closure I needed and moved on.
Oh, Jill. This gave me…all the feelings. Anger, frustration, sadness, grief. I’ve been there in a different circumstance, and am so proud of you for putting your story into the world. You are making a difference and I’m so glad to know you 😘
I think I mentioned in part 1, I can relate to a lot of this. The only difference for me is that my story was with the ONE that got away several years ago. Well, we got a way from one another really. And she liked to follow me here and there after we split up after a second attempt. Which did not help matters.
So sorry you had to go through this. From what I have read, you seem like a really thoughtful and caring person. Don't lose sight of this...! Never stop being this person...! Us guys have trouble with conveying emotions sometimes. Well, some of us anyways.
I think this story is so powerful, like a Greek fable, moral of the story: treat people with care.
I confess that once more than 16 years ago (I was almost 24) I ended a relationship of 5 years (my first serious boyfriend) over Skype. We were literal continents apart (I was 2 weeks into a 3 month internship overseas). He reacted badly, which now I see of course he did! He oscillated between calling me a c*nt and a sl%t and begging to go back. He hacked into some accounts and posted shit about me. I regret the way it came to be, how very hurtful it must have been for him. But I also saw how abusive we were to each other in the end, before I left for the internship. Anyway, not devils advocate here, the opposite, what I say is that I am embarrassed of me 16 years ago, and even though I never met my ex face to face again we did talk (I heard and saw his heartbreak) over Skype and phone and only blocked him after a few months when it became too aggressive. So shame on Jay!
Dec 1, 2022·edited Dec 1, 2022Liked by Jill Krause
I just. .... can't feel anything but pissed at him. Not only because you're my friend - no, actually, NOT REALLY AT ALL because you're my friend. Because, THAT WAS SHITTY of him. 100%. That's not how good humans treat other humans, no matter how unhealed or broken one may be. You just don't do that. Period. Full stop. (Ok so a little bit because you're my friend, but I'd feel the same way if I read this story and didn't know you.) Idc how fucking broken or confused he was, you deserved MUCH better. He's shitty. Good riddance to him.
I am 100% ok with people being mad at him lololol. It's a journey! And what he did sucked. That said, I am ok now largely because of friends like you. So thank you xoxo
I cannot appreciate you enough for sharing what feels, as you said in your IG stories, like a complete and utter fucking screenplay of a relationship story. Honored to support you always. xx
I’m so terribly sorry you had to go through all of that. All the time you’ve taken to heal and be honest with yourself was just turned upside down by his actions. No matter how careful you were, of course it was devastating. I appreciate the raw honesty you’ve given through all of this. I know you’ve been in the social scene for a long time and get the positive comments and the ugly ones, so you know how risky this was to tell. Thank you for doing it anyway and letting all of this into a slice of your life. And thank you for helping us know we’re not alone. ❤️ I truly wish you nothing but strength and happiness
Not all my dating stories are locked, Susan. Such detail? There are many missing and others changed. Idk how they would even find this unless they are already looking for it. My need to tell this story stems from my desire to fully process what happened and to connect with others who have had similar experiences.
Susan, I am always open to constructive dialog and questions in my comments here. I won’t, however, allow this to be a space where I or anyone else is made to feel like our stories should be kept quiet. You are free to feel as you do about my motivations, but I ask that you respect my online space.
I’m really thankful for the rawness of your writing style. I look forward to every knew chapter.
I agree sometimes a loss like this does have to be grieved like a death. One of the worst experiences I’ve ever had with grief was when a 22 year old friendship just suddenly ended. It was SO hard to get through that incredibly painful grief.
That had to be so so painful. Those early adult years friendships are so deep.
That’s true. The pain still pokes it’s head out sometimes.
Whew! That's quite the story! What I love is that you spoke your truth. I too have held back with my words because, why? They don't care anyway. Right? But you deserve to be heard. And so do I. I truly do hope he's happy with whomever he's with now. But I also hope he's learned to not be so careless with someones heart, ever again.
There definitely came a point where I was like, ok, you said what you needed to say already- many late nights I deleted texts I wanted to send in the coming months. I'm glad I said what I said, but then let that give me the closure I needed and moved on.
Oh, Jill. This gave me…all the feelings. Anger, frustration, sadness, grief. I’ve been there in a different circumstance, and am so proud of you for putting your story into the world. You are making a difference and I’m so glad to know you 😘
Thank you, friend! Miss you so much. Lets wine date zoom again soon!
YES!!! Let’s make it a date. Muah!
I think I mentioned in part 1, I can relate to a lot of this. The only difference for me is that my story was with the ONE that got away several years ago. Well, we got a way from one another really. And she liked to follow me here and there after we split up after a second attempt. Which did not help matters.
So sorry you had to go through this. From what I have read, you seem like a really thoughtful and caring person. Don't lose sight of this...! Never stop being this person...! Us guys have trouble with conveying emotions sometimes. Well, some of us anyways.
I knew this was coming, not the details obviously, but I still wasn’t properly braced for it.
I think this story is so powerful, like a Greek fable, moral of the story: treat people with care.
I confess that once more than 16 years ago (I was almost 24) I ended a relationship of 5 years (my first serious boyfriend) over Skype. We were literal continents apart (I was 2 weeks into a 3 month internship overseas). He reacted badly, which now I see of course he did! He oscillated between calling me a c*nt and a sl%t and begging to go back. He hacked into some accounts and posted shit about me. I regret the way it came to be, how very hurtful it must have been for him. But I also saw how abusive we were to each other in the end, before I left for the internship. Anyway, not devils advocate here, the opposite, what I say is that I am embarrassed of me 16 years ago, and even though I never met my ex face to face again we did talk (I heard and saw his heartbreak) over Skype and phone and only blocked him after a few months when it became too aggressive. So shame on Jay!
I just. .... can't feel anything but pissed at him. Not only because you're my friend - no, actually, NOT REALLY AT ALL because you're my friend. Because, THAT WAS SHITTY of him. 100%. That's not how good humans treat other humans, no matter how unhealed or broken one may be. You just don't do that. Period. Full stop. (Ok so a little bit because you're my friend, but I'd feel the same way if I read this story and didn't know you.) Idc how fucking broken or confused he was, you deserved MUCH better. He's shitty. Good riddance to him.
I am 100% ok with people being mad at him lololol. It's a journey! And what he did sucked. That said, I am ok now largely because of friends like you. So thank you xoxo
I cannot appreciate you enough for sharing what feels, as you said in your IG stories, like a complete and utter fucking screenplay of a relationship story. Honored to support you always. xx
Love you forever xoxo
::holds up mirror::
Thank you for sharing. I’m glad you’ve moved beyond to a place where you can share.
Gosh, me too. Feels so good.
Also. That title? DAMN🔥🔥🔥
This is a wonderful reminder that while sometimes it's good to walk away, other times we can say everything that needs to be said. We're allowed.
I’m so terribly sorry you had to go through all of that. All the time you’ve taken to heal and be honest with yourself was just turned upside down by his actions. No matter how careful you were, of course it was devastating. I appreciate the raw honesty you’ve given through all of this. I know you’ve been in the social scene for a long time and get the positive comments and the ugly ones, so you know how risky this was to tell. Thank you for doing it anyway and letting all of this into a slice of your life. And thank you for helping us know we’re not alone. ❤️ I truly wish you nothing but strength and happiness
Hmmm... I definitely didn't write it for revenge, and no vindication needed. It's simply my side of a true story that's mine to tell.
Not all my dating stories are locked, Susan. Such detail? There are many missing and others changed. Idk how they would even find this unless they are already looking for it. My need to tell this story stems from my desire to fully process what happened and to connect with others who have had similar experiences.
Susan, I am always open to constructive dialog and questions in my comments here. I won’t, however, allow this to be a space where I or anyone else is made to feel like our stories should be kept quiet. You are free to feel as you do about my motivations, but I ask that you respect my online space.